Wow! Very long post, but full of wise words. I agree with what you've posted, though I be new to the site (I'm only a month old).
I actually did read all the rules/FAQ's when I first joined. I do that to all sites I've been on. Though I still had to ask for help when needed (though not for items and MP). After reading this blog (as well as seeing with my own eyes) the greed and blatant lying/scamming of others, I can see now why my asking questions at the first annoyed many folks here on Mara. I guess once they realized I was asking for advise, not "stuff" I was then helped.
Thanks again!