Totally agree.
People do take ides, they feel as if they betrayed the older member, like they could end up being bullied as well.
I've definately had that.
I was trying to get a chibs for my borthers memory, and someone just said.
`Liar.`
Then people stopped upporting me and turned against me.
`Liar.
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yh i no!`
I hate it.